“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” -Jack Canfield
What would you ask for if you knew the answer would be YES?
Meet Reese Evans, creator of the Yes Supply™ Method. Reese is a mindset and abundance coach (and a new mama!) who is on a mission to teach the world the power of the subconscious mind to create the life that you were meant to live. She works with therapies like neuro linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, emotional freedom technique (EFT, also called tapping), and energy work to help her clients attract their “yes” in life. In a fun and heartfelt group convo, AMMA co-founders Emily Baldoni and Satya Twena got the chance to chat with Reese all about her method, the importance of mindfulness, and how it can impact and improve our experience of motherhood...check it out!
The Yes Supply™ Method is a 5-step model based on the principle that we can control our thought processes and fundamentally change our behavior to manifest our biggest dreams and goals (and if this sounds out there, there’s actually scientific evidence to support this concept...check out this article on Olympic athletes as an example!) Reese’s 5 steps are:
Step 1: Design Your YES
Basically, what do you want in your perfect ideal life? This is the place to allow space for the creative abundance of the universe and your own imagination to let you dream as big as you can. Don’t let resistance win!
Step 2: Your Empowered Self
The version of you who has your YES from Step 1...who is that person? How do you describe yourself? Your self-image will set the tone for your energy, so journal it out and get that vision crystal clear (hint: you are born deserving of massive abundance and capable of perfection, so...bear that in mind 😉).
Step 3: Determine Your Essential Skills
Do you need to achieve mastery in anything to manifest your goals? Take classes/certifications, read books, find a mentor...do whatever you need to do to get the skill set of Ideal You who has your Ideal Life.
Step 4: Your Exoneration of the Old Self
Release any old programs, paradigms, and expectations (both of yourself and what others expect of you), to allow yourself to become the person you really are. Give yourself permission to tear down the box you’ve been putting yourself in and see what possibilities open up!
Step 5: Your Eternal Success
Create a self-fulfilling prophecy by believing and expecting that the goal you set for yourself will come to be. The future reality already exists...let your faith be bigger than your fear!
“Faith and fear are the exact same thing: faith is expectation of what you want to come to fruition and fear is expectation of what you don’t want to come to fruition.” - Reese Evans
A Note on NLP, EFT, and Other Therapies
It’s never a bad thing to have more tools in your toolbox, but the Yes Supply Method will still work for you even if you don’t have access to modalities like tapping or hypnosis. These techniques make your visualization/manifestation more powerful and effective, so if you’re curious, here’s some more info:
- NLP (neurolinguistic programming) → used especially for goal-setting; when you think of anything your mind creates an internal experience of that thing, so projecting a clear future experience in your subconscious mind makes it feel more familiar. Think of it like programming a thermostat: set your subconscious to your future goal and it will direct your mind to take action and move forward towards that goal.
Mama Pro-Tip → Your subconscious mind can’t differentiate between real and imaginary (anyone who’s ever had super bizarre pregnancy dreams can attest to that!), so it’s a REALLY powerful tool for turning your dreams into reality.
- EFT (emotional freedom technique) → also called psychological acupressure or tapping, EFT reduces stress, negative emotions, and even physical pain to help restore balance to your body’s energy. It’s extra helpful in Step 4, when you are working to release old habits and emotional burdens that are holding you back from reaching your goals. It’s so powerful it’s been shown to drastically alleviate and even eliminate PTSD symptoms in war vets!
- Hypnotherapy → a guided therapy technique that uses relaxation and intense concentration to achieve a state of “uber-mindfulness.” It’s valuable for pretty much all 5 steps, but especially for any detailed visualizations or anything that requires major clarity and focus.
Mindfulness & Motherhood
“When we’re resisting the present moment, that’s what creates struggle.” - Reese Evans
So much of the struggle of motherhood comes down to expectation vs. reality. Moms beat themselves up because we’re told we’re supposed to be happy all the time, our houses should be spotless, our kids should never cry and always sleep through the night, etc. And when we inevitably can’t get it all 100% all the time we think something’s wrong with us or wrong with our baby. Reese encourages us to check in with ourselves and ask: am I resisting and trying to make this moment something it’s not? Go into your baby’s perspective: they’re new to the party and trying to figure it out (just like you, new mama!) and your stress is likely living in the disconnect between what you’re expecting your motherhood life to look like and what it’s actually looking like. If you can drop into the present and stop fighting against it, it all feels amazing. Promise.
Mama Pro-Tip → if you are a first time mama-to-be, mindfulness can be hugely valuable to prep you for your birth experience...watch the video above for Reese’s own experience with overcoming her profound fear of giving birth and tapping into the innate power that we possess as birthing people!